How To Show Gratitude

As we celebrate the Thanksgiving weekend, I feel it is only fitting to discuss how we can use gratitude in our everyday lives to strengthen our relationships with others. Gratitude is an oft overlooked emotional expression, especially in a consumer culture where we have a special Friday dedicated to trampling old ladies and small children to get … More How To Show Gratitude

Why You Need To Start Practicing Shame-Attacking Exercises

One of the most effective practices for treating social anxiety, shyness, and other forms of social phobia is shame-attacking. It’s an idea with roots in Albert Ellis’ Rational Emotive Therapy (now known as Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, or REBT), a highly effective treatment method for many classes of psychopathology. Shame-attacking exercises are part of a broader class … More Why You Need To Start Practicing Shame-Attacking Exercises

Touch Aversion and Its Roots in Western Dualism

Western philosophy, onward from Plato through Descartes and Locke, could be called the philosophy of mind-body dualism. For those not acquainted with the term, the theory posits that mind and body are separate and distinct substances; the body coming from matter or physical nature, and the mind arising from “soul” or “spirit” and existing distinct from the … More Touch Aversion and Its Roots in Western Dualism

Social Anxiety Is Too Much of a Good Thing

Social anxiety has its benefits. As social creatures, it is perfectly rational for humans to desire being liked and fear being shamed. Indeed, ensuring one was well-liked by one’s tribe was once critical to one’s survival. It is unsurprising, then, that many (in fact, most) people still have a healthy level of fear when interacting … More Social Anxiety Is Too Much of a Good Thing

Stand With Paris

It was with a heavy heart that I learned this morning of the news in Paris. It is always difficult to hear news like this. My thoughts are with the people and families of Paris as they work to rebuild. The shop windows and streets can be fixed easily enough, but it will take much longer for their … More Stand With Paris

Please Talk to Strangers: Social Interaction as Moral Obligation

It’s a danger I was cautioned against throughout my childhood. Considering the almost religious fervor with which it was spewed from the mouths of the adults I trusted – parents, teachers, and the like – one would be forgiven for thinking that every adult that isn’t a firefighter or police officer is itching to lure children into … More Please Talk to Strangers: Social Interaction as Moral Obligation

Ready, Let’s Go

I was speaking today with a friend I met on the bus a few months back. The day we met, Tyler was sitting opposite me, studying a copy of How to Win Friends and Influence People. Having read the book myself, and wishing to make Dale Carnegie proud, I smiled at him and mumbled “that’s a … More Ready, Let’s Go